If you are a Christian you believe you were born with Free will and with free will you were given the power to make choices. We all have choices. We often use the phrase “What choice do I have” or “What choice did I have”, when defending the choices we made.
But the fact that we indeed have choices resonates in my mind. The Nigerian young woman we saw in lecture 12 was given a choice. She chose to go with the men even though her family urged her not to. Of course she saw the promise of a better future; that is what drove her to trust these individuals and take them up on their offer. What followed was anything but that. (Always remember what’s too good to be true, usually isn’t!) She was part of the human trafficking of sex slaves and was brought to the streets of Italy. She then faced the choice to stay or to run. Being frightened, I imagine, and the fact that she had no idea where she was or how to get help kept her hostage there. She chose to stay and suffer the consequences. When she was picked up by police and brought back to her home, the men were soon to follow. The family was given an ultimatum, $10,000 or you will be killed. Obviously, they could not pay that sum of money. Again she was faced with another choice. What would I do in that predicament? I would go. If it meant my family would be harmed in any way, I could not help but to go back. This woman’s choice was a difficult one to make, get beat and tortured on a daily basis or have this happen to my family.
Now let’s move on to the adult male porn stars. Please, comparing them to this woman is an insult. The men chose their profession. They may have certain characteristics that seem to appeal to the industry such as a sexy voice, chiseled body and the ability to last a long time such as with Jeff Stryker. He is one of the highest paid performers in the “gay for pay” industry. “Gay for pay” is what is described as heterosexual men performing in gay movies for the money. Straight male porn actors are paid $300 to star in adult films with woman. Men who star in gay porn are paid $3000. Another male example is Ben Campezi, who claims he is straight but the money is phenomenal. He has his wife on set to “coach” him. I don’t believe any of this trash. Come on, he wants his cake and eat it too. I believe these men are either gay or bi-sexual and so far in the closet, they can’t reach the door. (And you mean to tell me there is a shortage of gay men willing to star in these films?) Ben is married; perhaps he doesn’t want to “cheat” on his wife with men. What better way to have sex with men than to do it on camera and say it is for the money only. What struck me is how supportive the wife is supposed to be, yet after the take, her actions speak loudly. She does not look at him, it is even almost like she is disgusted by him as well, and the way he goes to her and massages her breast as if to prove, “see, this is what I like. Yeah, I am a MAN.”
These men unlike the Nigerian woman have a choice. Perhaps they cannot be Supreme Court Justices or go on to college and get a corporate job. If they really set their mind to it, I am sure they can find a way to attend a college with the benefit of grants or loans if they looked hard enough. They could work construction, or find another job that does not require a higher education. The fact that they chose the industry they did, makes a statement about their character. They like sex. Who wouldn’t? But to say they had no choice but to work with other men is ridiculous. To say it is just another job and theirs just happens to be “giving it to” another male is laughable. My husband would NEVER do that no matter how desperate we are financially. If it was life and death, perhaps he would suck it up. But just for money when there are other jobs, no never.
I will leave with one last thought. Think back to Columbine, yes the execution of High School students by Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold. It was said that a student saw what happened to other students when asked if they believed in God. And when it was Cassie Bernall’s turn, even though she knew she was going to be killed for it, she CHOSE to say, “Yes”, she believes in God. So we are all left with a choice, some easier than others, but to hide behind an excuse is nothing but cowardly. They say that money is the root of all evil. If you compromise your principles for money, that is your business, but don’t say you have no choice. And if your principles were not compromised, it means you were willing and able. So don’t lie and say “I only do it for the money.”