As The Cousin’s Party Turns

4 females

5 males

All blood related

1 fiance

4 husbands

3 wives

11 children 14 and under.

Can this reunion work with this family – 9 cousins trying to plan the perfect BBQ.


Disclaimer: Title is not original – stolen from idea of cousin #4 or 5! Can't remember who is older "T" or "M" – anyway swiped from "M" ūüėČ


VT or TV is missing in action.  Did she run off with cousin #7 or was it cousin #9 who is set to marry in August! Will this marriage materialize and how would cousin #6 handle this?  I am sitting at the edge of my seat waiting for next season's premiere!


Michael Lucas – just a few questions

I’ve read Michael Lucas’ essay and browsed his blog and website.¬†¬† I would like to stress that I am not a homophobe nor do I begrudge the gay community¬†of any rights as citizens of this country. I have friends and family that are homosexual and I see the struggles they encounter. With that said I would like to address a few items that troubled me and would like to pose some questions for Michael.

Michael makes references about Matthew Shepard and uses this tragedy to support his strong, opinions and convictions, which is commendable.  He has a cause and is not afraid to fight for it.

However, I noticed a few discrepancies and if you will, contradicting comments about what he writes and what he does.

My first question to Michael would be, how could you say that you ask a model if they have had unprotected sex and if they answer “yes” you will not hire them.¬† Then promote John Paulus on the Howard Stern show and stand behind him as he “outs” Clay Aiken.¬† It is¬†stated in one of your blogs¬†that John mentions having bareback sex (unprotected sex) with Clay.¬† If this is true, why is he performing in a movie of yours? I thought your policy was that you would turn¬† him away for his “irresponsible behavior” and would not want to risk your other actors’ health.¬† Why is this any different?¬† What makes John an exception to the rule? [please don’t say it¬†is because the act wasn’t¬†filmed]¬†I won’t even go into the fact that I disagree wholeheartedly that one, regardless of celebrity status, political figures, or housewife, should be outed by another. But it does lead me to my second question.

You seem to be all about gay rights and the freedoms that are denied to them.¬† Yet, and please correct me if I am wrong, you also seem to put down others that don’t conform to your way of thinking and behaving, whether it be a person you may consider a “homophobe” or a person who wishes not to be “out” at this time.¬† You seem to want to push your beliefs on others yet get defensive if someone tries to do that to you.¬† Don’t you think we should all be tolerant of each other?

Finally, along those lines, you mention that “by¬†distancing themselves from the adult gay community, media channels effectively stigmatize the porn star and his fans. There is no outlet for healthy expression of gay sexuality in mainstream media today.¬† To that effect, gay porn serves as a necessary outlet in homosexual society.”¬† It is known that many shun porn in general, not just gay porn; have you ever thought to bring homosexuality to main stream media? Perhaps, your talent can be what the gay community needs instead of depicting gay men as clownish or troubled. If you haven’t tried to go mainstream, what are your reasons, and if you have, what were your obstacles?

Thank you for reading my questions and I look forward to your answers. (I would have provided links but thought best not to do so at this time.)

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Reading yesterday's newspaper, I came across an article about the new trend in teenage books.  They are a series of books called "The Gossip Girl" by Cecily von Ziegesar. Click this link to read about the author, the controversy and excerpts from her books. It seems that this set of books depicts teens having sex, doing drugs, using profanity and plotting and scheming against each other and a fair share of adults are outraged. The books are geared towards teens 14 and above. These books seem racy, but should they be banned? Do they constitute as obscenity?

I just read a post that ties in with this article. Although I have yet to watch this week's lectures, I would like to comment of cyberubs blog. I clicked on this link and came across Judy Blume's book "Deenie".  I had read this book as a teenager.  Like I stated in one of my previous posts, I was diagnosed with scoliosis at the age of 12.  My parents and I had no idea the extent of the curve(s) and we were afraid I may need a brace to correct it.  My family was (still is) very much into literature; therefore my mother went searching for a book that I can read and relate to.  Deenie is a girl who has scoliosis and needs to wear a brace.  She is a young teenager and goes to parties and ends up playing spin the bottle.  The thing I remember most about this book was that she was concerned about wearing her brace and being embarrassed in case the boy she was in love with would try to "feel her up" and instead of feeling her breast he would feel the brace. What I do not remember is that it also dealt with masturbation – the reason why Spring Hill School District in Hernando County, FL banned the book.  (Challenged but retained.)(Read Judy Blume's reaction to her book being banned)

This brings me to the books I mentioned above. I don't know how to feel about the Gossip Girl series.  As a parent, I am outraged that such material is targeted for young girls. However, as once being a teen myself, I  enjoyed reading novels including some that were pretty illicit.  It is the parents' responsibility to bring their children up with morals and good judgement. Although I read these books, Deenie included, they did not make me go out and act irresponsibly.

After reading cyberub's blog, the article in my newspaper and reading up on the Gossip Girl series, I do not think it should be banned.  Nothing should be banned.  It is up to the parents to allow or disallow certain material to be read.

Did my mother know the content of the book when she got it for me? Maybe – maybe not. I read all the books my children do – whether they know it or not.  I just don't let on or try not to.  I purchased a book for my son "Then again maybe I won't" by Judy Blume.  I read it, but I think my son would be mortified if he knew I knew what was written! Since I read "Are you there God? It's me Margaret" by the same author when I was a young girl, I purposely looked for the same type book only geared toward boys. I thought it would help him realize he is not alone with his feelings and that he is normal.  It would be a shame if that book was banned – it deals with wet-dreams. (oh the horror!) 

All these people screaming censorship are taking things too far. Years later the theme of the story sticks in my mind, but the one act, masturbation, the reason why Deenie was banned, does not.  This proves that some people make way2much out of things unnecessarily. I say let the children read!